In looking up Father’s Day this is what Wikipedia had…
Father’s Day is a celebration honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society. The tradition was said to be started from a memorial service held for a large group of men who died in a mining accident in Monongah, West Virginia in 1907. It was first proposed by Sonora Dodd of Spokane, Washington in 1909. It is currently celebrated in the United States annually on the third Sunday in June.
Here we are another year gone and another year of hmm. For our family we do not do anything unless I force the issue or my husband chooses to get together with his dad at the last minute. Unless I made the mistake of letting my anxiety get the better of me and trying to keep up with the ‘Jones’. For me this thought is that I am a bad wife because I do not push the celebration of Father’s Day and I need to have something to talk about the day after. At work I listened to a variety of comments about what everyone’s plans for the day were. Ran the gamut of nothing, yard work, grilling/BBQ, activity, or dinner out. What was interesting to me was like our house nothing was preferred from the perspective of the fathers it was the wives/girlfriends that were pushing the lets ‘get out and do something’. So if a fair amount of men do not want to celebrate the day actively andjust stay home and relax. Should we not look at why? Or is it an aspect that for many it is just another day. If my children do not remember it then I did not do a good enough job (woman thinking) or is it just they truly just want to relax and not deal with anything.
Than if relaxing is the goal why are we treating Father’s Day as we do Mother’s Day? Should the Father have the ultimate say on His day not what our perception as women think the day should be marked with? Even our gift suggestions from companies reflect this separation. Mother’s Day is about fancy dinners, jewelry, and flowers. Father’s Day is power tools, yard tools, grills, etc. Do we see the trend that dad’s just want to stay home not ‘fun’ but home?
Do we notice that the day was proposed by a woman? Additionally, as with Mother’s Day there are Father’s through divorce, death, and health issues.
So next year do we strive to respect their wishes and not do anything or celebrate as we do Mother’s Day against what a portion of them want? Just an observation to reflect and ponder before next year.
As always this is an individual’s observation and personal struggle of am I truly respecting my husband by doing nothing or pushing to do something I want to do that is expected.
Thank you for reading.