This week went well for the most part. I had a couple of anxiety spikes but was able to determine the thoughts had no foundation. I want to call ‘thoughts had no foundation’ as irrational, but depending on my day, the word irrational makes me feel worse. Let’s journey forward to review this week’s potholes.
What made this week a success is I was able to keep specific anxiety thoughts down to less than a day. One, I had to rely on the individual involved how they felt. I was rather proud of myself that I could ask the next day instead of several days later. That several days delays normally impacted those around me negatively and my energy and activities. Where does that leave me?
I think in a decent spot. On the home front, the physical tasks it takes to run a home got done. In my anxiousness, I only once got upset and responded negatively to my family. Where this stems from is that taking care of the house is done by me. My husband provides financially, and my daughter is a teen journeying to young adulthood. Motivating her has become a personal failure that is going to take me more time to accept. For the parents out there, yes, I know it is her responsibility now. The struggle is over reviewing her upbringing and what I could have done differently. Long way of saying I am the chief cook, bottle washer, clothes, and finances. So when my anxiety and depression turn into more exhaustion and physical pain than my other physical limitations already give. I get frustrated with the lack of help. So for me, I found success that I only lashed out once while I was overwhelmed. Lashing out for me is not keeping my internal dialogue to myself and speaking out loud.
This week’s only non-resolution, and I still wobble back and forth on, is the current subject of racism and social interaction. What I keep anxiously dwelling on even though I thought I had resolved where my place was on this? My anxiety took me to extremes; here is my example. I went to McDonald’s and ordered what I always did, a ‘Black Iced Coffee’. When asked about flavoring, I said no cream, no sugar, no flavor. Upon picking up, I got a coffee with milk in it. Yes, this may have been a simple mistake, but my anxiety took me to extreme thinking. I took it because I did not want to back up the drive-thru, and I had water, so I was at least not out of fluid. Got me overthinking did they put milk in it because they responded to me using the word black. Am I no longer allowed to order coffee black? I have always ordered it this way. Some will comment, say plain. I guess I can, but is not this subject going too far that we have to worry over every little word we use. Multiple people have lost their jobs for knee jerk comments. Heck Netflix took Gone With the Wind off due to the subject matter are they going to do the same for the movie Roots or any other Civil War based movie or movies Like Guess who’s Coming to Dinner with Sidney Potier. My anxiety is not dealing well with this whole situation.
Side note while editing this Gone with the Wind is being re-uploaded with historical context prior. Which I must say is excellent, hopeful that the historical context will be an impartial review of truth. In regards to McDonald’s in my pain, I did contact the store, which, thinking back on it, struggled if I should have done this. Why because my anxiety is going to place me in a position of not going back there because I may have offended someone, and they will be angry with me. Of course, coming from that industry of customer service in retail, it is ‘irrational’ to think they will remember me when I return in two to three weeks from now since I am not a regular.
I feel selfish, saying that I am terrified about talking and interacting with people right now. Smiling at people or waving. We have a segment of our society saying by being silent; you are advocating racism. How can we support when we are unsure where and what we think over a subject being reported differently and reference materials are different depending on who is presenting it? We worry about how to speak what we are thinking and are severely unsure of how another individual reacts, or do we lose a friendship? As the racism wrecking ball moves into legislation, how will this impact other groups that do not fit the norm when politicians are writing all-inclusive language that will make things worse.
Thoughts of a weekly review are daily anxiety I did amazingly well on, so let’s mark that a success. On the subjects pushed by mainstream media and social media of racism, police defunding, and now the situation in Seattle, Washington occupying a whole block. Below are a couple links to the Seattle subject; it is two of multiple postings out there all different than the next. I feel like a failure. I cannot seem to drop the anxious thoughts impacting my daily activities. Strive to smile and nod at everyone, no matter who they are. Still cause worry that they are offended.
As I work through my anxiety research project and how to interact with myself and others. Hopefully, I have put together something that will help me find a happy medium between being aware of current news subjects but not allowing my mind to consume me by worse case thoughts.
I was going to leave my review here. This week’s pothole on this journey called life will be a success in personal life. Interaction on a societal level marks a failure when balanced against the media, but a success when looked at I have not allowed it to send me to an anxiety attack that put a full stop to my day and week, just a couple hours here and there. Keep journeying forward, life looks different no matter who you are.
There are many other postings that can be found on Fox News, The Guardian, and more. All saying different things.
Thank you to those who read. Sorry for the delay in posting this. Have a great new week.